Delay don’t Deny



Hello friends! When I started this blog I was never going to be one of those people who disappeared for a long time, then came back with a long excuse and apology. So I will make it short and sweet. I’m sorry I have been gone so long.

It’s no surprise that I have been struggling for almost a year now. I have not gained my weight back, but it took all I had to maintain. I I have dabbled in everything this year to start losing again, all while I am coaching others to lose weight in the group I co-facilitate. It’s down right humiliating. But many of the members have been so kind and supportive. Some have judged me, but that is no big surprise. It comes with the territory.

So I looked up the plethora of weight loss plans I tried this year, some lasted a few weeks, some a few hours. My Kindle app is full of diet books. Here is most of it;

  • Counting calories
  • Counting carbs
  • Deal-a-meal cards (yes, I bought an old deal-a-meal on eBay)
  • Weight Watchers
  • The Harcomb Diet
  • The Daniel Diet
  • Bright Line Eating
  • Diet Fix
  • Brain over Binge
  • Shred
  • Dr Phil 20/20
  • OA (I even started a group in my town, after several months, I gave up, no one ever attended)

I read every former fat person’s book, and scoured the internet for some hope. I had friends in place for accountability and nightly prayer. And let me tell you, all of them worked. All of them! I learned bits and pieces from each and every effort I made to seek an answer for my compulsive eating. None was a waste of time. All had to happen for me to get where I am today.

I had gained a little, I was up 4-6 pounds depending on the day. Then I had a friend who was fasting. I was worried for her. FASTING? That was crazy! I was conditioned to believe since I was young to eat 3 small meals a day and maybe even a couple of snacks. And, wasn’t fasting treading on dangerous grounds. What if I become bulimic? I would surly die if I went without food for a day let alone two!

But I listened with an open mind. I dug into research. Googled everything I could find on Intermittent Fasting or IF. I listened to countless hours of You Tube videos and Podcasts. It started making sense. There are many ways to fast, and that was the beauty of it all. You modify it to your lifestyle. A common way is to go 16 hours fasting and 8 hours eating. What’s so hard about that? You sleep through a good chunk of the time. Some do one meal a day (OMAD) And there are those who fast 2,3 or even a week or more! And lived to talk about it!

So I tried it OMAD, for 1 week. Stepped on the scale and I was up 5 pounds!!! What? I was terribly discouraged. But I knew, to be honest, those one meals were huge. I was binging. So I tried again. One meal a day, and the one meal was moderate, but large compared to the calorie count on a normal eating day. About 1000 to 1300 calories. I was down 2 pounds. Then another week went by, I lost 11 pounds!!! So total weight loss now from April 2015 is 168 pounds. I am loving the fasting!

I tend to go extreme with everything I do so I have been doing some 2-3 days fasts. It was hard at first. but so much easier than I expected. The book Delay Don’t Deny by Gin Stephens was my main source of information. Also Dr Fongs book The Obesity Code  was helpful as well.

Now here is the funny thing I am finding out, When I break my fast, you would think I’d be ravished, and at first I was. But now, I have less food thoughts, and the thought of shopping, preparing, weighing my food, tracking it, cooking and cleaning up 3-6 times a day seems to be so much busy work to me. The freedom is amazing! And when I eat, I eat really good food, things I love. My kitchen now stays clean for days. And, the eating in the middle of the night has completely stopped! I get to eat satisfying meals, I don’t have to, with in reason, stress over portions. At first I was eating high calorie food for my OMAD, I was like a kid in a candy shop. But in time, I started craving healthier and healthier foods. I had pizza last night from the most favorite pizza place in my community, I ate a salad before the pizza so I would make sure I had some vegetables, and honestly, the salad tasted better than the pizza. Don’t get me wrong, Rosie’s Pizza is delicious, but that obsessive need to eat compulsively was not as strong. I ate part of it and put the rest in the freezer for another day. Something I would never have done before. I would have eaten till stuffed, then binged on the rest later, or in the middle of the night.

Now I am only going into my 3rd week of this, but I seem to be finding a rhythm, And the IF community on Facebook is super friendly and supportive. I guess the proof will tell in time. But for now, all my prior thoughts on fasting have changed. Thanks to those of you who have hung in there and kept believing in me. It means a lot. Blessing to all of you!




Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog. I am a Baby Boomer from Nebraska blogging my way to good health. I am single, with no children, I have a little white maltese dog named Lily. Follow my journey to lose 1 pound 300 times.

2 thoughts on “Delay don’t Deny

    • Kathleen

      Thanks for reading! I’m still trying different things, but most general 5-6 PM. I also do at least one 35-45 hours fast mid week. in other words, I go one whole day with only water and black coffee. But I kind of had to work up to that. I still have a lot of weight to lose, I’m not so sure thats a good thing to do if someone has only a moderate amount of weight to lose.

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