The language of Love

 

I was sitting on the bed drinking coffee and watching the Chew and Lily my sweet little maltese IMG_0601was snuggled beside me when I though about how I miss Cricket my little black Pomeranian that I lose this week. Then I reached over and gave Lily a treat. Nothing wrong with that, but it was her 3rd treat today! I was loving her with treats. Even though dogs love them, and feel the love when we treat them. too much of anything is bad for you. I must be mindful of this before I have an overweight dog on my hands. I can love Lily in many different ways, one is to take her for a ride. She loved to ride in the car, what dog doesn’t?

When I was a little girl, my Dad was in charge of me on Saturdays. My Mother worked downtown in the jewelry department in a fancy department store called Yonkers.yonkers She was very attractive and both of my folks dressed to the nines. She was right there by the front revolving doors. She was the first impression, the pretty lady in the jewelry counter. My Dad and I would run errands. Which often left me in the mens department in the J C Penney’s store downtown. What a drag for a little girl, looking through mens clothing. Every department store had a candy counter. It was usually a clerk surrounded by every kind of candy you could think of,candy and you ordered by the pound, well sort of. I would get a nickel, and I could pick out what kind I wanted for 5 cents. In the 60’s, you could buy a lot of candy with a nickel. A nickel from my Father to buy candy was an I love you, in my eyes. Then we would go home and put a roast in the oven so it would be ready when mom came home. Daddy’s are very important to little girls, they are the first men we know. They teach us our worth as a girl, and have much to do with our self esteem as an adult. They also teach us our own love language.

How do you love your children, your husband, your dog, or loved one? Do you feel loved when you get some editable delight from someone you love? Do you show love by cooking a special meal? Do you have treats ready for your grandkids when they come to visit? Now some of this is OK. making memories with your grandkids with a special treat is fine. But if you think you are defining that love with someone through food, its not OK. Is the main way you show love through food? I have a very dear friend, almost like a nephew to me, that mows my lawn. I think the world of Steele and his sweet wife Ruby.

Me and Ruby

Me and Ruby

I always send them home with something to eat . Giving is my nature, so it comes easy, but I do want to show them love in other ways as well.

Thanksgiving and Christmas are just around the corner. What are you going to do with your language of love? So much of the holiday season is food related. It’s inevitable, we can not avoid that, nor do we want to. Food is meant to be enjoyed, just not abused. Maybe this year we can think of non food ways to celebrate the Holidays. Think outside the box. What would be a great non food addition to your Christmas Eve? Christmas day? New Years? So much of having a successful weight loss is to have a plan instead of flying by the seat of our pants. Now I’m not implying to make a super structured ridged holiday. I mean, aren’t many of the really fun moments born out of spontanity? Just set yourself up for success.

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Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog. I am a Baby Boomer from Nebraska blogging my way to good health. I am single, with no children, I have a little white maltese dog named Lily. Follow my journey to lose 1 pound 300 times.

6 thoughts on “The language of Love

  1. Sue

    Is t it interesting how God communicates with us? What a revelation for you to realize Lily was being loved by you with food. As the old cigarette commercial said, “You’ve come a long way, baby!” I sometimes think I have to give my granddaughters the THINGS they want that money buys. Now I realize the best memories are the moments we spent together doing the things they love. And for me, I love to get at eye level and play with them or sometimes sit back and be a grateful silent observer of these little miracles God has put in my life.
    Love you, Sue

    • totalkathy@aol.com

      So true, some lessons in life have to be learned and not taught. that’s the trick, to learn fast and quick! It’s good you have that awareness regarding your sweet little grandaughter. its more enjoyable anyway. You get to watch her have those “ah ha” moments! Love you Sis!

  2. Christine

    I really loved this one just for reliving the old days when a nickel could buy such treasures/treats….I often look back to happier days the older I am… thanks for sharing so much of yourself! Love you!

    • totalkathy@aol.com

      That’s nice to hear, I was a bit concerned I was posting something no one could relate to. But I think many of us remember those days with fondness. Blessings!

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