This morning my sweet Mother-in-Law, Ginny passed away. She was one of the nicest people I ever knew. Seven years ago Ginny and I planned a funeral for her son, my husband. She walked me through all his health issues, hospital stay’s and heart surgery. I could always count on her. They say a mother should never have to bury her children. This is true, her grief from the loss of her only son, Paul, was probably one of the hardest times in her life. Yet she was so much support to me in that moment in time. Rest in Peace sweet Ginny.
As you all know, I lost my sweet little dog of 15 years last weekend. She was Paul’s bright light in his day. Cricket was the buffer when our marriage was struggling, and his health failed. I feel as though I am shutting the door to an era in my life.
I’ve been reflecting on the last 15 years of my life. I feel like I am waking from a dream. Not a bad dream, just a dream. So much has changed in that 15 years. I lost both of my parents, my husband, my very favorite aunt, a Mother in law, two dogs, plus closing my beauty shop and retired from hairdressing. All of those things meant so much to me, and defined who I was.
We have choices in life. We all will experience hard times and feel losses we are never prepared for. But we don’t have to allow these things to destroy us. I almost did. Sadly I fell into my puddle of sorrow and wallowed in it entirely too long. In the process of that, I gained 300 pounds. Some of that weight I worked so hard to lose previously.
Now I can whine and list all the awful things that have happened to me, and use them as an excuse to be self destructive. I have done that and it got me nowhere. Or, I can take the hand that has been dealt to me, and use it to catapult myself to a new place. A better place. Our negative experiences don’t have to produce a negative life. We are capable of taking the garbage and rubble of our lives and transforming it into our best treasure. The very thing that got you down, can fling you to a level in life you never even dream you could achieve.