Measuring My Success

 

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One of my homework assignments for my coaching class is writing a business vision. It seemed like a lot of fussing around and busy work, because it was quite detailed. After I got into it a bit I understood the importance of the exercise. I started visualizing specific things I never gave much though to. It gave me a balance, and it pointed out how the steps I take towards my goal today, have everything to do with where I wanted to be, and how I am going to get there.

So, I started thinking and applying this to my weight loss goals. How much weight do I want to have off in 6 months? A year? 5 years? Am I going to get there at the rate I am now going? What do I need to change today to get there?

In my past weight loss days, I only focused on the current weight loss, and maybe at most what it would be like to have 50% of the weight off. I have lost, in my life time 100+ pounds 4 different times, and 200 once. I seem to be successful at the losing process once I get on track, but I seem to lose my way after I get a nice chunk of it off. I believe it may, partly, be due to the fact that after losing 100+ I find myself more comfortable and mobile than when I was at my highest weight. I got too comfortable, getting tons of compliments, and allowing myself to become sloppy and careless because I was not motivated by the pain of obesity anymore…. well, compared to where I came from. I remember losing weight from being in the mid 400s and weighing 290 pounds thinking, “I could be this weight all my life and I would be happy” Because to me, I was able to get around without much pain (compared to where I was) Being able to buy clothes at Lane Bryant, and even dating. I also had a lot of confidence. (I am convinced it was my confidence more that my weight loss that was most attractive anyway,…but thats a topic for future posts)  I just did not have that urgent motivation any more. Yet, when I was in the 200s, and doing all those TV informational, those who weighed less than I were always coming up to me for my secret to success. I was put on a pedestal because of losing 200 pounds, and yet still weighed in the mid 200’s. There were people who were under 200 pounds that wanted what I had. I had a lot of trouble wrapping my head around that, and I never felt worthy of the compliments I got.

When I was in the 200’s and started gaining my weight back, I kept rationalizing it by saying “well, I’m not in the 300s or 400s so I’m still successful.  I let myself slip, and rationalized all the binging I was secretly doing. Then the weight kept piling on, I remember getting to 280 and thinking, why does it feel so horrible to weight 280 now, and yet when I was losing and hit 280, I though I was on top of the world?

It is so important to have a map, a plan, goals. It’s important to visualize specifically where we want to go, or in this case weigh, and have specific mile marks along the way. Without a goal, or some direction we can easily get lost or run out of motivation. Keeping in mind this is only a measure of my physical weigh loss, and not the value of who I am. My value never increases when I lose weight, no matter how much. I was a valued human being even when I weighed in the 500s. Weight loss, is only a health issue. But we honor who we are by eating healthy and taking care of our bodies.

I use to set out to lose weight, not really having a specific number in mind. I even said on occasion “oh, I’ll know when I get there”. But that is not true. Losing weight, especially a lot of weight, can not lean on how we are feeling to measure our success. That is proven a lot of ways, that’s why someone from LA wears a heavy coat on a 50 degree weather and someone from Nebraska is wearing shorts.

So today I wrote down how much I want to weight in 6 months, a year, and even 5 years. Because I want to keep this weight off this time for the rest of my life. And without a roadmap, chances are, I won’t make it.

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Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog. I am a Baby Boomer from Nebraska blogging my way to good health. I am single, with no children, I have a little white maltese dog named Lily. Follow my journey to lose 1 pound 300 times.

4 thoughts on “Measuring My Success

  1. Nancy Paperi

    Hi Kathy,

    I love your blog and your inspirational posts. I am traveling a similar weight loss journey as yourself and can relate to so many of your experiences. I was wondering if you wouldn’t mind sharing with me the company/school you’re getting certified in as a Weight Loss Coach. I loved hearing you were pursuing this because I feel there is a genuine need for individuals to help each other along the way. I would be interested in hearing about the process as I feel it may be something I want to look into as well. Thanks again for encouraging those of us who can always use that “shot in the arm”.

    Nancy Paperi

    • Kathleen

      Thanks Nancy! Sure, I am happy to share! I am taking classes from The World Coach Institute. http://www.worldcoachinstitute.com It is one of the schools approved by the International Coaching Federation. With the growing popularity of coaching, many colleges and universities now offer coach training programs that are accredited by the International Coach Federation (ICF). Some courses offer a life coach certificate after just a few days of training. according to the ICF, training programs accredited by the ICF require a minimum of 125 student contact hours, 10 hours of mentor coaching and a performance evaluation process. There are so many people claiming to be coaches
      It’s good to be ICF certified. Having IFC approved credentials hold higher standards. I liKe the classes and am learning a lot! Thanks for being a faithful reader. It means so much to me!

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